Eleutheromania- What's your travel personality?

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Eleutheromania is an extreme desire for freedom. It is a state of mind when you experience yourself without any filters or judgment.

When I was asked, what’s your life goal? I only thought of a huge globe with travel stories. If you were not afraid of anything, where would you want to go? The answer is the key to your eleutheromania.

Life Hack: Invest in experiences and not things, it is much more comforting.

Every traveler has a unique personality. Observing fellow travellers is lot of fun; you can peep into their lives by just noticing their mannerisms. Each one has a different story, a different destination, and my wanderlust keeps pushing me to dig deeper.

Read my version of your travel personality based on your packing style.

The OverPacker – Believes in options

What if I go horse riding? What if I have to go for 3 fancy dinners? What if I plan to go running? They are constantly making hypothetical situations and end up packing almost their entire wardrobe.

The BackPacker – Always has a contingency plan 

They pack everything rolled neatly. No matter what the situation is, they always have a knife, scarf, rope, band-aids to sort it. I completely envy their precision.

Go Empty BagPacker – No hang-ups, go with the flow

This special breed believes in shopping at the destination. Just carry basics, wear the heavy jackets and boots on the flight, and shop without any stress.

The HackPacker – Geek chic who has an answer to everything

Their suitcases are like an engineering assignment, where each item has its own place. They have mastered the art of reading and applying every packing trick online. You have to be a genius to travel lighter than them.

As a travel blogger, I would easily tradeoff expensive labels for a trip worth remembering, because travelling has taught me how to live fearlessly and love with all my heart. Trust your eleutheromania; it could lead you to the greatest joy you ever experienced.

  

Beauty is fearless, not flawless #Vlog

I wrote the worst essays in school, mixing all the optional topics and making one story out of it was my kick. My Mother, Summer Vacations and If I was the Prime Minister for a day, were all a part of the same narrative.This is precisely my writing style till date, I like connecting dots.

There’s no logic, no business model, no strategy to my work, but I build it from the most authentic part of my soul .The only P* that works for an entrepreneur is Persistence. No blogger can exist in isolation, you are a part of every step forward.

Life Hack: To understand digital, you have to live digital. 

Indian blogging is a billion dollar industry when combined with e-commerce. The success of any blog is measured in terms of the number of high profile brands they showcase, but what if someone refuses to be perfect?

There are at least 100 failures behind every glorified step. Living like a nomad has given me the courage to exist without inhibitions because real beauty is fearless, not flawless.
  

WIfeFI Connecting

We are discussing the transformation stage. This post is not going to glorify the ladies, neither is it going to bash the men. It's just me, tickling the lighter side because every good relationship has one. 

Life Hack (Peacock version): There’s no IDEA that can change your wife, so stop being a pirate and just settle down.

We asked the ladies their version of this transformation. Top 2 concerns.

What happened to the romance?

I thought, it was going to be exciting

Gentlemen’s club

I am “NUTS” about you, this is romantic!

You are my 'butter half', this is exciting errrr..

Not a relationship expert, every couple has their own dynamics. A good laugh will just make you great friends that’s what matters, right? Every human love's differently, if we accept this then WIfeFI will be as exciting as free WIFI.
  

Wanna'preneur?

Wanna'preneur is a syndrome that makes you believe that being an entrepreneur is going to solve all your problems.

Life Hack: No one can fire you… you can’t quit either.

Reality Check

Lets get it straight, every entrepreneur has his “I do not wannapreneur days” they are almost equal to the actual number of days you spend being happy about your kick (your own) ass move. 

Stuff like Aamir Khan’s opinion on 'intolerance', and Modi’s global tours makes no difference to your life. You are beyond social trolls.

Self doubt is going to be your new hobby, it's just the way it is.

A good sense of humor is going to add balance to your emotional turmoil. It won't make you happy but stronger. (most imp tip)

Super Power Dismantled

You will grow as a person, and find capacity that didn’t know was possible. Every time someone puts you down you will find more energy to bounce back. Every knock gets you more stubborn about your goal. Its a space that will test every inch of your persistence. Bend, but do not break (no pun intended)

CAUTION: Not for the weak heart. 

If you have a survival tip, please leave a comment for my readers.
  

Love Bytes - Mira Savoor fights domestic violence.

Romantic - He loves me, he loves me not. Tragic - He loves me, still beats me a lot. 

We talk to a fighter, applaud her audacity to come forward and break the silence at the age of 83.

Life Hack: Love shouldn’t hurt.

When we started with the interview she was numb, but as the conversation got serious our camera started capturing her true strength of character. Mira was married at the age of 18 to a handsome army officer. They made a picture perfect couple to the world, but the reality of this marriage was outlined with grudge. Every night Mira was emotionally and physically tortured for reasons unknown to her.

"He would beat me with thick ammunition boots"

She lived in fear for 30 years, until one night when something pushed her out of that nightmare. Courage is not the absence of fear, but the judgement that there is something more dangerous.

We tried a social experiment with Mira, by using dissociative reality. This was facilitated using mind reading technique of transmitting our consciousness to deal with trauma. It is used as a healing therapy for someone who has gone through negativity over a long period of time. After a few sessions, the mind starts detaching itself from the trauma leading to a positive outlook. This social experiment has been performed by Mohit Rao.

Everyone wants to know why didn't she leave, well because most of the victims are in denial for the longest time. The next phase is isolation which leads to loss in the ability to fight. So next time you take pride and think “I would have walked out”, please empathise with their reality. It is far more scary than you think. 

What hurts most is not the words of an enemy but the silence of our friends. Do not be a bystander. 

Domestic Violence is not a women’s issue but a man’s issue. If men start taking this up with authority, it could lead to a progressive change. I can challenge a real man will not be offended with the previous statement. 

Mira will give any 30ish complex, in terms of her zest for life. She raised 2 beautiful and confident daughters, they live on their own terms and share a great bond. Abuse exists in silence, the very first part in healing is shattering the silence. Mira's story needs to be shared, discussed with your young children because our society needs a voice that revolts against injustice. No one has the right to beat you, rape you or abuse you. Ask for help, it will only get worse. 
Leave your comments, you might inspire someone to speak up.


#YouthKiAwaaz features 30ish
  

Website Link: http://www.youthkiawaaz.com/2015/11/domestic-violence-story-of-a-survivor/

Gold Rush - Amritsar

Most frequently asked question - How do you fund your travel?

Me - My ‘To Be’ but now ‘X ’ Louis Vuitton

The logic is simple I invest in experiences and not things, its much more comforting.


Our Story is going viral on leading travel websites.

Sasriyakaal Punjab! Our next pit stop is the land of “Khet”, endless fields.

Life Hack: Amritsar is known for Parathas, Patiyala pegs (everything large*, especially whiskey) and Patolas (attractive women). 

Sprinkled with history this city is an absolute colour burst and a foodies paradise. If you ask for black tea, they are convinced that you are unwell. “No Doodh”, is tragic. 

Welcome to Golden Temple through the eyes of miss sunshine - She will insist you have the halwa (dipped in pure ghee, tastes divine) and is quite diligent with her duty (Sewa), one cannot escape her enthusiastic strides. Everyone serving (age 4 onwards) at the Golden Temple is doing it out of faith in humanity. 

No one checked my bag, I wasn't asked to leave my cell phone and camera in a locker, no one tried selling me flowers and offerings, no VIP queues.

The Langar / Free Kitchen at the Golden Temple is worlds largest community kitchen serving upto 1,00,000 visitors every day. Their faith encourages them to dismantle social barrier and insists that everyone eats, cooks and serves food together irrespective of gender and caste.

The way you choose to absorb a new place is totally your imagination, everyone visiting Amritsar makes a customary visit to the Golden Temple, I stepped in as a tourist and returned with gold, which for me is a feeling of being blessed by simplicity. 
  

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30ish & MARD

This post has been published in our column "On the 30ish Slope" in #LivingLocal, November Issue. It is also a tribute to #NoShaveNovember where men worldwide are doing their bit by embracing their hair.(cancer patients suffer hair loss during treatment),they will be donating the money typically spent on grooming to support cancer treatment. 30ish is giving men the benefit of doubt, and hoping this is not a lazy excuse to not shave!

Couple of decades back, a typical “MARD” was someone very macho. A strong man who fought goons to protect his damsel in distress. This generation cheered every time Amitabh Bachchan screamed,‘Mard ko dard nahi hota”.The definition has gone through various iterations, MARD in 2015 is a progressive man who cheers for his woman every time she wins, shares responsibility, isn't conscious  about being sensitive and stands with her through tough decisions.

#Life Hack: Real MARD will flaunt a bigger heart than muscles. 

This post is not about what women expect from men but about all those men, who in their own way want to tell women that they respect us. I know so many men who are a “True Gentleman” and treat us right. My blog is perceived as being feminine but its surprising that 50% of the readers are men who feel as strongly about issues affecting women.

These men are amongst us, our dad, brothers, spouse, partner, sons, friends and we love them. Men and women think differently but we balance each other, thats the beauty of relationships. As a social influencer, I suggest when you make us laugh, we find you 100077873987 times more attractive. Yes, I am an independent woman of the new millennium and I accept this without any bias, happy men make happier women.

Every time these real men stand with us, support us and wear pink to amuse us, our heart smile’s. After all being a gentleman never goes out of fashion.